It's an amazing feeling being loved and appreciated by someone. There's Valentine’s Day to look forward to, every anniversary is so special, and you meet their friends, family and have an extra circle of friends. You feel like you’re in a partnership, you finally have a best friend who loves you and adores you just for being...you. But after a few sentences this can all go and then what? As you walk away either being dumped* or the person who had to break the news you might think:
"I'm glad that’s over"
"What just happened and why?"
"Phew! That went pretty well"
"This cannot be happening to me"
And loads of other things...
"What just happened and why?"
"Phew! That went pretty well"
"This cannot be happening to me"
And loads of other things...
Basically it's not easy facing someone and seeing them break down, or hearing it and feeling like you should plan your revenge or like your stomach is going to come out your mouth. So many feelings come rushing in at once and you don't know what to do, but to just walk away and get ready for the next day. At the same time it’s very brave to say such things and to stand there and take them.
But things have changed slightly...I've heard relationships are ending via TEXT? EMAIL? Surely this is a cop out, obviously if you were in far distance relationship but still come on!
Over the next few weeks I will be asking as many** East London teen’s questions about the end of relationships:
Questions such as:
What’s worse being dumped or the person doing it?
At the time would you have preferred to end it first?
Why?
And how?
You might be thinking being dumped is blatantly the favourable answer but I think it’s important to consider the other side and the reasons why. You might be surprised!
*Its a horrible word 'dumped', who came up with it anyway to use for the end of a relationship?
Other words that could be used:
Rejected, Chuck, Leave, Walk out, Abandon
**I will be aiming to ask 50 teens or more. I know these results do not apply to all teens in London. I will be asking a mixture of boys and girls. The teens I question will be asked if they want their comments on the blog as anonymous or as themselves. There will be no set ‘questionnaire’ because that limits replies; instead I will be getting my results by taking notes. Some of the questions might be personal and the teens I ask do not have to answer them if they don’t feel like it.
Wish me luck...
